"每个人都是潜在的杀人犯每个人时不时都会有杀人的念头尽管没有杀人的意志"

Every one of us, at some point, feels those moments of intense frustration or anger. We get so mad that we might say, "I'm going to kill him!" But let's be real, it's just an expression. This quote is really getting at that universal human experience. We can all feel like we want to lash out sometimes, but there's a big gap between feeling and doing.

Historically, this kind of idea isn't new. Think back to when societies were just forming. People had to learn to control those urges for the sake of the community. Losing your temper might have meant losing your place—or worse. Even in modern times, we see it in the way laws are set up. Self-control is fundamental to living together peacefully. Without it, we'd be in chaos.

Let's bring it to a specific example. Imagine you're at work. Your colleague, let's call him Jim, has been slacking off, and it’s driving you nuts. You've been picking up his slack for weeks. One day, he messes up big time, and your boss yells at you for it. You're fuming. In that moment, you might feel like you want to just explode at Jim—to really let him have it. But you don’t. You take a deep breath, count to ten, maybe go for a walk. That’s the difference between the feeling of wanting to do something extreme and the will to actually do it.

So how do you apply this wisdom in real life? First, recognize that those feelings are normal. Everyone has them. The key is what you do next. Take a step back when you feel that intense anger bubbling up. Think about the consequences. Is it really worth it? Usually, the answer is no. And hey, sometimes just taking a break, whether it's a walk or some deep breaths, can make a world of difference.

Let me tell you a story. My friend Sarah had a neighbor who played really loud music late at night. This went on for months. She was seething every night, and finally, one day, she marched over there, ready to give him a piece of her mind. But when he opened the door, he looked so stressed and frazzled that she ended up asking if he was okay. Turns out, he was going through a tough time and the music was his only way to cope. Instead of blowing up, Sarah ended up feeling empathy. They worked out a compromise where he used headphones after 10 PM.

This illustrates the quote so well. Sarah had that intense feeling, but she didn't act on it. Instead, she found a better way—one that left both her and her neighbor in a better place. We all have these moments. What counts is how we handle them.

So next time you feel that surge of anger, remember: it’s okay to feel it. But take a step back before you do something you might regret. You’ve got this.