"愛することによって愛し方を学ぶ。"

Loving is a skill you develop by actively engaging in the act itself. It’s not something you can fully grasp by reading about it or hearing others talk about it. You get better at it through practice, just like any other skill. Loving involves understanding, patience, effort, and the willingness to put someone else’s needs sometimes before your own.

This idea comes from the belief that love is not just a feeling but also an action. You can’t sit back and expect to suddenly be good at loving someone without ever trying. In the same way that you can’t become a great cook without ever stepping into a kitchen, you can’t become an expert in love without showing love and learning from those experiences.

Consider the story of a young couple, Jake and Emma. When they first started dating, they were both new to relationships. They had this idealistic view of love influenced by movies and books — they thought love meant grand gestures and constant happiness. But as they continued their journey together, they faced challenges. There were arguments, misunderstandings, and moments of doubt. Instead of giving up, they chose to learn from these experiences. They communicated, compromised, and supported each other. Over time, they realized that love is built in these small, everyday moments — the simple acts of kindness, the patience during tough times, and the effort to understand each other better.

So, how do you apply this wisdom? Start by being present and attentive in your relationships. Listen actively when someone speaks, show empathy, and be willing to work through conflicts. Understand that mistakes are part of the learning process. If you mess up, apologize and try to do better next time. Love isn’t about being perfect; it’s about being committed and genuine in your efforts.

Imagine you're in a coffee shop, and a friend is pouring their heart out about a recent argument with their partner. Instead of giving advice from a distance, you share your own experiences. You talk about the times you've messed up and how you learned from those moments. You remind them that every argument is a chance to understand each other better, to grow closer, and to love more deeply. You tell them, "It's okay to stumble. What's important is that you keep trying, keep loving."

Think about a time when you were new to something — maybe it was a job, a hobby, or even driving. At first, it was probably overwhelming. You made mistakes, felt uncertain, and doubted yourself. But as you kept at it, you got better. You learned from your mistakes and grew more confident. Love is much the same. The more you engage in it, the better you understand it and the more you grow.

So, in essence, don’t wait for the perfect moment or the perfect feeling to start loving. Dive in. Show kindness today, be patient, listen, and learn. Through these actions, you’ll find that you become more skilled at love, and your relationships will deepen and flourish. Just like Jake and Emma, you'll realize that love is crafted in the everyday moments, in the continuous efforts to understand and care for one another. And over time, you’ll find that you’ve learned to love by loving.