"قلل من استخدام كلمات "دائما" و "أبدا""

Limiting your use of "always" and "never" is really about being flexible in how you see the world and yourself. These words — "always" and "never" — tend to box us into rigid ways of thinking. They can make situations seem more black-and-white than they actually are. When we say things like "I always mess up" or "I never get anything right," we're putting ourselves in a corner, shutting down possibilities for change or improvement.

This idea comes from a place of understanding human nature. We often look for certainty in an uncertain world. Think back to when you were a kid. Maybe you struggled with math homework and thought, "I will never get this." It's a natural reaction, but it's also short-sighted. Limiting our thinking with absolutes can keep us from seeing progress or growth.

Let's look at a practical example. Take a friend of mine, Sarah. She used to say, "I always ruin every relationship I'm in." Because of that mindset, she was scared to start new relationships. It was like she had predetermined the outcome. But then she met Dan. Instead of approaching the relationship with her usual baggage, she decided to give herself some grace. She avoided falling back on "always" and gave herself the chance to just be in the moment. Over time, she found that she was better at communicating and building trust than she thought. By letting go of "always," she opened herself up to new possibilities.

So how can you apply this wisdom in your own life? Start by catching yourself when you use "always" or "never." Ask yourself if what you're saying is really true. Do you always get nervous before a presentation? Or have there been times when you felt pretty confident? Do you never stick to your goals? Or are there areas where you've shown perseverance? Challenging these absolutes can help you see things in a more balanced way.

Imagine you're at work and you miss a deadline. Instead of thinking, "I always mess things up," try telling yourself, "This time I missed a deadline, but I can learn from it." It's a small shift in language, but it makes a big difference. It opens the door for growth and learning, rather than keeping you stuck in a negative cycle.

Let me share another story. Picture a guy named Mike. Mike's dream was to be a writer, but he kept telling himself, "I never get anything published." He had a stack of rejection letters that seemed to confirm his belief. One day, his friend challenged him to apply to a writing contest. Mike was hesitant, but he decided to go for it. He didn’t win, but he got some really positive feedback. Through that experience, he realized that his "never" wasn't true. It was just a story he had been telling himself. That small success gave him the confidence to keep submitting his work, and eventually, he got published.

The next time you catch yourself saying "always" or "never," pause and think. Is it really true? Or is it just a habit of thinking? By questioning these absolutes, you can unlock a more flexible and forgiving mindset. And who knows? You might just surprise yourself.