"Llevo una pequeña hoja de papel en mi billetera que tiene escrito "Si no estás en la arena también recibiendo golpes, no me interesa tu opinión.""

This quote is all about valuing the feedback and opinions of those who are actively involved and taking risks, rather than those who just sit back and criticize without participating. It’s a reminder that the most meaningful advice comes from people who are in the trenches with you, facing the same challenges and setbacks.

To give you some context, this idea is often credited to Brené Brown, a researcher and storyteller who talks a lot about vulnerability, courage, and leadership. She was inspired by a famous speech by Theodore Roosevelt, where he praises the "man in the arena" who strives valiantly, even if he fails, as opposed to those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat. Brown’s point is that real feedback should come from people who have skin in the game, who understand the struggle because they're in it with you.

Imagine you're starting a small business. You’re working long hours, putting your heart and soul into it, and someone who’s never run a business before starts telling you what you should be doing differently. Maybe they’ve never taken a risk like that themselves but have lots of ideas about what you’re doing wrong. On the other hand, think about the conversation you’d have with another small business owner. They get it. They know the ups and downs, the late nights, the stress. When they offer advice, it comes from a place of understanding and experience.

Here’s some advice on how to apply this wisdom. First, be selective about whose feedback you take to heart. It's not about dismissing everyone who isn’t in your exact situation, but it is about recognizing who has the credibility you can trust. Look for mentors who’ve been through similar experiences. Seek out peers who are also putting in the work and facing challenges head-on. Their feedback will likely be more practical and empathetic.

Now, picture this scenario: You're at a family dinner, and your cousin, who’s never left his comfortable corporate job, starts giving you unsolicited advice about your entrepreneurial venture. He’s confident in his opinions, but they’re just not grounded in any real understanding of what you’re facing. Meanwhile, your friend Jane, who runs her own café, sends you a text about a new marketing strategy that worked for her. That’s the feedback you should be paying attention to. Jane knows the hustle, the risks, and the potential rewards. Your cousin? Not so much.

So, think about the voices you’re letting in. Are they in the arena with you, or are they just spectators? This doesn’t mean you can’t listen to anyone outside your immediate circle, but weigh their advice carefully. Consider their experience and whether they’ve truly walked a mile in your shoes. And, of course, don’t be afraid to politely tune out the noise from those who aren’t in the game. Focus on those who are taking hits alongside you, those who understand the blood, sweat, and tears because they’re shedding them too.

In the end, it’s like having your own personal filter. Keep the voices that build you up and help you grow, and let the rest fade into the background. It’s not about being dismissive—it’s about being discerning. And that little piece of paper in your wallet? It's your reminder to stay true to this path.