"اگوی خود را همچون لباسی گشاد بپوش."

When we talk about wearing your ego like a loose fitting garment, it’s all about not letting pride or self-importance fit too tightly around you. You should be able to let go of your ego easily when needed. Imagine you’re putting on a jacket that’s a size too big. It's comfortable, easy to move in, and you can shrug it off without a second thought. That’s how your ego should be—something you can carry without being weighed down by it.

Historically, this kind of wisdom has roots in various philosophies and teachings. It’s been echoed by many thought leaders, from ancient philosophers like Socrates to modern-day self-help gurus. The idea is that being too attached to your ego can limit your growth and your interactions with others. When your ego is too tight, it restricts your ability to learn and connect. You’re so busy protecting your image that you miss out on the richness of experiences around you.

Let’s bring this to life with a real-world example. Picture this: You’re at work, and there’s a big project on the line. Your team is brainstorming ideas, and you present what you think is a brilliant solution. But then—oh no—someone else suggests a different approach, and the team loves it. Now, you’ve got two choices. You can cling to your ego, feeling hurt and defensive, or you can loosen that grip. If you choose the latter, you can appreciate the other person’s idea and contribute positively to making it succeed. It’s not about whose idea wins. It’s about the team’s success. By not letting your ego take center stage, you help create a more collaborative and successful outcome.

So, how do you apply this in your life? First, practice self-awareness. Catch yourself in those moments where your ego starts to tighten. Ask yourself—is this really about what’s best for everyone, or am I just trying to protect my pride? Second, get comfortable with being wrong and learning from others. It’s okay not to have all the answers. In fact, it makes you more relatable and approachable. Lastly, celebrate others’ successes as much as your own. When you see someone else shine, see it as a win for the team, not a threat to your own worth.

To illustrate, imagine you’re at a family dinner. Uncle Joe is telling his usual loud, exaggerated stories, and you’ve got a good one that could top his. You’re itching to tell it. But instead, you decide to listen. Really listen. Maybe ask him some questions. You notice the way his face lights up as he describes his adventures. Everyone is engaged and having a good time. By letting your ego loosen, you’ve contributed to a warm, enjoyable gathering without needing to steal the spotlight. And guess what? The world didn’t end because you didn't tell your story. In fact, it feels pretty good to see someone else’s moment of joy.

In the end, keeping your ego loose isn’t about diminishing yourself. It’s about being secure enough to let others shine, embracing learning opportunities, and fostering genuine connections. So, the next time you feel that ego tightening, take a deep breath and loosen it up. Wear it like a jacket that’s a size too big—you’ll find life a lot more comfortable.