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"社会的脳は、誰かと対面でリアルタイムに話をしているときに自然な環境にあります。"

Daniel Goleman
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Our brains are kind of like social butterflies—they really come alive when we’re chatting with someone face-to-face. It's almost like they’re built for these moments of connection. Think about it: when you’re sitting across from a friend, catching up over coffee, your brain is firing on all cylinders. You pick up on their facial expressions, their tone of voice, and even their body language. All these cues help you understand not just what they're saying, but how they're feeling. It’s like your brain is a supercomputer that’s been waiting for this exact program to run.

This idea has some interesting roots in history. For centuries, humans have been social creatures. Before the age of smartphones and social media, people relied on face-to-face interactions to share stories, solve problems, and build relationships. Our ancestors would gather around fires, in communal spaces, or markets—places where they could see and interact with each other up close. These interactions were crucial for survival, fostering trust and cooperation within communities.

Let’s look at a real-life example to see this in action. Imagine a team at work that typically communicates through emails and messaging apps. They hit a snag on a project—something’s just not clicking. Frustration builds, and progress stalls. Now, picture this same team deciding to hold a face-to-face meeting. They gather in a room, and suddenly, there’s a different energy. People talk, but more importantly, they listen. You can see the shift in body language: nods of agreement, the occasional raised eyebrow, or a smile that says, “I get it.” Ideas start to flow, and solutions come up that no one had thought of before. It’s as if the collective brainpower of the team is amplified in that room.

So, how can you tap into this social superpower in your daily life? Start by making an effort to have more in-person conversations, even if it means stepping out of your comfort zone. Invite a colleague for coffee instead of sending that email. Catch up with a friend in person instead of through text. You'll likely find that these interactions feel more meaningful and satisfying. They also build stronger connections and a deeper understanding between you and others.

Imagine this scenario: You’re new to a city and you don’t know many people. Sure, you could join local online groups or follow people on social media, but what if you took a different approach? You decide to join a local club or community group. Maybe it’s a book club, a hiking group, or even a cooking class. You show up for that first meeting feeling a bit nervous—but as the evening goes on, you start chatting. You share a laugh with someone over a shared love of mystery novels, or you bond with another person as you both fumble through a new recipe. Before you know it, these face-to-face connections turn into friendships. Your brain lights up, soaking in all the nuances of these interactions, and you feel a sense of belonging that an online interaction just can’t replicate.

In the end, our brains are wired for connection, and there's something irreplaceable about real-time, face-to-face communication. It's like we're giving our social brains the nourishment they crave. So next time you have the chance, opt for that face-to-face chat. Your brain—and your relationships—will thank you.
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Brain function Emotional intelligence Human connection Interpersonal communication Neuroscience Social interaction
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