"المسامحة ليست نسيانًا إنها في الواقع تذكر التذكر وعدم استخدام حقك في رد الضربة إنها فرصة ثانية لبداية جديدة"

Forgiving isn't about erasing the past. It's about acknowledging what happened and choosing not to retaliate. It's a conscious decision to let go of the desire for revenge and offer yourself, as well as the other person, an opportunity to move forward and start fresh.

This idea is particularly powerful. Think about it: when you forgive someone, you're not pretending the hurt never occurred. Instead, you recognize the pain but decide not to let it control your actions. This quote captures the essence of forgiveness as an active, willing choice to create a new path.

Take the story of Nelson Mandela, for instance. After spending 27 years in prison, he had every reason to be bitter and hold grudges against those who imprisoned him. But Mandela chose forgiveness. He remembered the injustices he faced, but he didn't let them dictate his future. Instead, he led South Africa out of apartheid and towards reconciliation. Mandela's choice to forgive, rather than seek retribution, paved the way for healing in a divided nation.

So, how do you apply this wisdom in your life? Start small. Imagine you've had a falling out with a close friend. They said something that hurt you deeply. It's tempting to cut them off or lash out. But instead, take a breath, and remember the good times you've had together. You don't have to forget the hurtful words. Acknowledge them. Then, choose to forgive. Reach out, have an honest conversation, and let them know how you felt. This doesn't mean you're excusing their behavior. It means you're choosing to give your friendship a chance to heal and grow.

A relatable scenario might be, let's say, at work. Picture this: a colleague takes credit for your idea during a big meeting. You're angry, and rightfully so. The immediate reaction might be to confront them aggressively or to seek revenge by undermining them at the next opportunity. But instead, you decide to address it calmly. You have a private conversation with your colleague, expressing how you felt and why it’s important for you to be acknowledged for your contributions. You forgive them, not because you forgot what they did, but because you value a positive working environment and want to give them a chance to make things right.

Forgiveness is less about the other person and more about your peace of mind. Holding onto anger and resentment is exhausting. It’s like drinking poison and expecting the other person to suffer. By forgiving, you reclaim your power, and you decide how the story continues. It’s not always easy, and it might take time. But it’s worth it for your own well-being.

Remember, forgiving and forgetting are not the same. You don’t have to erase your memories. Instead, choose to remember in a way that frees you. It’s a chance to start over, armed with the wisdom of past experiences. Sometimes, the greatest act of strength and love is to forgive and begin anew.