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"شما خانواده خود را انتخاب نمی‌کنید. آنها هدیه‌ای از سوی خداوند به شما هستند، همان‌طور که شما به آنها هستید."

Desmond Tutu
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Families aren't something you pick out, like choosing a new pair of shoes. They're given to you – a bit like a surprise package. You get what you get. And that's just how it is. The people you call family are meant to be in your life for a reason, and you in theirs. There’s a deeper purpose behind it, even if it doesn’t always seem obvious.

Think back to when this idea might have first popped up. It’s a timeless thought, really. It probably comes from a time when family ties were everything, when your clan or tribe was your support system, your safety net. In many cultures, the family is sacred, seen as a divine arrangement. And this view has passed down through generations, becoming a comforting thought for many people.

Let’s dive into a real-life example. Picture a young woman named Sarah. She's had a rocky relationship with her parents. They’ve always clashed – different values, different dreams. Sarah felt misunderstood, and she often wondered if she was misplaced in her family. Yet, at her lowest point, when she lost her job and felt the weight of the world on her shoulders, her parents were there. They supported her, no questions asked. They provided her with a place to stay, helped her find her feet again. Despite their differences, the bond of family brought them together when it really mattered. That’s the gift part – they were there for each other when it truly counted.

So, how do you take this idea and run with it in your own life? Start by recognizing the value of your family, even if they drive you nuts sometimes. Maybe they’re not perfect, but neither are you. Next time you’re frustrated with them, try to step back and see the bigger picture. They’re in your life for a reason. And just as they’re a gift to you, you’re a gift to them. Think about what you bring to the table. Maybe you’re the one who lightens the mood during tough times or the one who brings everyone together during the holidays.

Now, imagine a scenario: You’re at a family gathering, and things start to get tense. Maybe it’s a political debate or a clash of personalities. Instead of getting sucked into the drama, take a deep breath. Remember that each person there is part of your life for a reason. Try to find some common ground or steer the conversation to lighter topics. Or, if that’s not possible, just focus on being a calming presence. Your approach can change the whole atmosphere.

In the end, understanding that your family is a gift – imperfections and all – can change how you see and interact with them. It’s not always easy, but shifting your perspective can bring you a lot of peace. Embrace the chaos, the love, the arguments, and the laughter. It’s all part of the package.
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