"نگرانی تظاهر به ضروری بودن می‌کند ولی هیچ هدف مفیدی ندارد"

Worry might seem like it's helping us, but it's actually just a big waste of time. Think about it – when was the last time worrying actually solved a problem for you? Probably never. We often feel like if we don’t worry, we’re being irresponsible. But that’s just not true.

This idea comes up a lot when we're facing tough situations. Let's say you're waiting for medical test results. It's nerve-wracking, right? You start imagining all the worst-case scenarios. You think that by worrying, you're somehow preparing yourself for bad news. But in reality, all you're doing is stressing yourself out. The worry doesn’t give you control or change the outcome.

Now, let me tell you about my friend Sarah. She was always anxious about her job. Every time her boss called her into the office, her mind would race with thoughts of getting fired. It didn't help her perform better at work. In fact, it made her more anxious and less productive. One day, she decided to try a different approach. Instead of getting caught up in worry, she focused on what she could control – her actual work. She started preparing for meetings, asking for feedback, and improving her skills. Guess what? Her performance improved, and she felt less anxious. The job wasn't the problem. Her worrying was.

So, how do you apply this wisdom in your own life? First, recognize when you're worrying. Stop and ask yourself, “Is this helping me in any way?” Most of the time, the answer will be no. Next, shift your focus to action. What can you do about the situation right now? If there's something you can do, do it. If not, try to let it go. It’s easier said than done, but like any habit, it gets better with practice.

Imagine this scenario: You're about to go on a long road trip, and you start worrying about all the things that could go wrong – getting a flat tire, bad weather, getting lost. Instead of spiraling into worry, you make sure your car is in good shape, pack an emergency kit, check the weather forecast, and download a map on your phone. Now, you’ve done what you can to be prepared. The rest is out of your hands. You can enjoy the journey instead of obsessing over potential problems.

In a nutshell, worry tricks us into thinking it’s doing something important, but it’s just a waste of mental energy. Instead of letting it take over, focus on what you can change and leave the rest. Life’s too short to spend it worrying about things that may never happen. Trust yourself to handle whatever comes your way, and remember, you’ve got this.