"放弃定义自己——对自己或他人。"

Sometimes, we get so caught up in trying to pin ourselves down to a specific identity that we forget how fluid and ever-changing we really are. This quote is telling us to let go of that urge to constantly label ourselves or fit into neat boxes. It’s like this: you’re not just one thing. You’re a mix of experiences, emotions, and growth that changes with each passing day.

This idea isn’t new. Think back to ancient philosophers like Heraclitus, who believed you can’t step into the same river twice. The river’s always moving, always changing—just like you. When you stick to rigid definitions of who you are, you’re trying to freeze a river in time. And that’s just not possible. Life’s a journey, not a fixed point.

Take a real-life example: think about David Bowie. Throughout his career, he reinvented himself countless times—from Ziggy Stardust to the Thin White Duke. He never let himself be defined by one persona or genre. And because of that, his music and influence stayed fresh and impactful. Now, imagine if he had stuck to just one identity. He’d probably have faded into obscurity, right?

So, how can you apply this to your own life? Start by being open to change. Next time you catch yourself saying, “I’m just not that kind of person,” pause and reconsider. Maybe you weren’t that kind of person before, but who’s to say you can’t be now? Try new things, pick up new hobbies, and challenge your old habits. It’s all part of growing.

Imagine you’re at a party. You meet someone new, and the dreaded question comes up: “What do you do?” Instead of giving a standard job title, talk about a recent project you’re excited about or something you’re learning. You’re not just your job. You’re a whole lot more, with layers and layers of interests and quirks.

Here’s a little story to bring it home. Picture Jenny, who’s always seen herself as a “math person.” She’s great with numbers, and everyone knows it. But one day, she gets roped into a painting class. At first, she’s hesitant—painting’s not her thing! But as the class goes on, she finds herself enjoying it. She loves the colors, the creativity, the freedom. Jenny realizes she doesn’t have to stick to just one identity. She can be both a math whiz and a budding artist. Her world opens up, and she feels more alive than ever.

So, let’s remember—we’re not static. We’re a whirlwind of possibilities. Let go of those definitions and see where life takes you. You might surprise yourself!