"I started learning how to not be so angry about things, learning how to count my #%$@!%& blessings instead."

Learning to let go of anger and focus on the positive can really change your life. When you shift from being constantly upset to appreciating what you have, you open up a whole new way of seeing the world. It’s about recognizing that while you can’t control everything that happens to you, you do have control over how you react.

This mindset shift is something many people come to after experiencing a lot of frustration or disappointment. Maybe you’ve had a run of bad luck, or things just haven’t been going your way. You get to a point where you realize that being angry all the time isn’t helping. In fact, it’s probably making things worse. Think about when this was said—perhaps it was during a tough time, or following a personal revelation. It’s like that moment when you’re fed up with how things are and decide to change your approach because, hey, what do you have to lose?

Take Scott, for example. He was this guy who always seemed to have something go wrong. Car trouble, work drama, you name it. He used to get really angry about it all. But one day, he decided he was done with the anger. Instead, he started keeping a gratitude journal. Every day, he’d write down three things he was grateful for. It was awkward at first, sure. But over time, he noticed he was less stressed and more content. He still had car trouble and work drama, but he didn’t let it ruin his day.

So, how can you apply this wisdom? Start small. Next time you’re about to blow your top, take a deep breath and think of something you’re grateful for. Maybe it’s your morning coffee, the fact that you’re healthy, or even just the sunshine. It doesn’t have to be monumental. The key is to make it a habit. Do it every day, and you’ll start to notice a shift in your mindset.

Imagine you’re stuck in traffic. It’s been a long day, and all you want to do is get home. Your first instinct might be to curse the universe. But instead, take a moment. Look around. Maybe you see a beautiful sunset, or you catch your favorite song on the radio. Focus on that. It’s a small thing, but it’s enough to change your mood.

Here’s a story to bring it home. Picture Lisa. She’s always been a bit of a hothead. One day, she spills coffee all over her work outfit. Normally, she’d go into a rage. But remembering her new approach, she stops. She thinks, “Okay, this sucks. But at least I have a spare shirt in my car. And hey, maybe this is a sign I need to slow down.” It’s not perfect—she’s still annoyed. But she manages to laugh it off and get on with her day. That small shift in perspective makes all the difference.

So, next time you’re faced with something infuriating, try to find that silver lining. Count your blessings, even if you have to dig deep to find them. Over time, you’ll find that the world looks a little brighter, and your anger won’t control you anymore.