"La intimidad erótica se trata de conexión, no de consumo."
— Esther Perel
Simplified Meaning:
When we talk about erotic intimacy, we're focusing on building a deep bond and sharing a special connection with someone, rather than just trying to satisfy our own desires. Think of it like cooking a meal together with a friend; the joy comes from the experience and teamwork, not just eating the food at the end. In a relationship, this means being present and attentive to your partner's feelings and having meaningful interactions. It's not just about what you can get from the other person, but about growing closer and understanding each other on a deeper level. For example, a couple might spend time talking, laughing, and creating memories together, which builds a stronger relationship than just focusing on physical attraction. Applying this to life means valuing quality time and emotional closeness over superficial needs.
