"停止把所有的不幸归咎于运气"

Blaming every setback or misfortune on luck is a way of avoiding responsibility. It’s like saying you have no control over your life, which is just not true. Sure, luck plays a role in our lives, but it doesn’t dictate everything. You have the power to make choices and take actions that can change your circumstances. When you stop pointing the finger at luck, you start to see where you can actually make a difference.

Historically, this idea has roots in various philosophies and self-help movements. Think about the concept of “locus of control” in psychology. People with an internal locus of control believe they can influence their own lives, while those with an external locus think their lives are controlled by outside forces like luck. This quote is pushing you to adopt an internal locus of control—take charge and recognize your own power.

Let’s dive into a real-life example. Imagine Sarah, a young professional who’s been trying to get a promotion for years. Every time she gets passed over, she grumbles about how unlucky she is. But then, she decides to take a hard look at her situation. She realizes she’s been coasting, not really pushing herself or seeking feedback. So, she starts taking on challenging projects, asking for advice, and improving her skills. The next time a promotion opportunity comes up, she’s ready. And guess what? She gets it. Sarah’s success wasn’t about luck—it was about her taking control.

So, how can you apply this wisdom in your own life? Start by reflecting on areas where you’ve been blaming luck. Maybe you didn’t get the job you wanted or a relationship didn’t work out. Instead of thinking you’re just unlucky, ask yourself what you could have done differently. Did you prepare enough for that job interview? Did you communicate openly in that relationship? Once you identify what you can control, take action. It’s empowering and can lead to real change.

Picture this: You’re sitting at a coffee shop with a friend who’s lamenting about their latest string of bad luck. They didn’t get into the grad school they wanted, their car broke down, and they’re feeling pretty down. You gently nudge them, “Hey, I get that things have been rough, but maybe it’s not just bad luck. Did you apply to more than one school? How’s your car maintenance been?” They pause, thinking. You continue, “Maybe there are things you can do to improve your chances next time.” Your friend starts to see your point—they decide to apply to more programs and make a car maintenance schedule. A few months later, they get accepted into a great program and their car’s running smoothly.

It’s not about denying the existence of luck. Sometimes, things just happen that are out of our control. But if you always blame luck, you’re missing opportunities to grow and improve. Taking responsibility means you can influence your own destiny. So next time something doesn’t go your way, think about what you can do differently instead of chalking it up to bad luck. It’s a subtle shift, but it can make a huge difference in how you navigate through life.