"最初から持っていないよりも持っていて失う方がいつもより痛い。"

Losing something you once had stings more than never having had it at all. Why? Because when you experience something good—love, success, friendship—you become attached to it. You get used to the feeling of having it around, and when it's gone, the absence leaves a gaping hole. It's like pulling a band-aid off slowly; the pain lingers and you're left with a raw spot that takes time to heal.

Imagine a scenario: you save up for years to buy your dream car. It's sleek, fast, and every drive feels like a tiny adventure. Then, one day, it gets totaled in an accident. The loss isn't just about the car itself. It's the memories, the freedom, the joy you felt driving it. Now, contrast that with never having owned the car. Sure, you might have wistfully thought about what it would be like to drive it, but you wouldn't feel the intense grief of losing it because, well, it was never yours to begin with. The emotional investment just wasn't there.

This quote is often reflected in relationships. Think about a deep, close friendship. You've shared secrets, dreams, and countless laughs. Then, something happens—maybe a betrayal or simply growing apart. The loss of that friendship can be devastating. The memories of what you had make the absence all the more painful. If you'd never had that friend, sure, you might feel lonely or wish you had a close buddy. But the sharp, specific pain of losing that unique bond wouldn't be there.

So, how do you apply this wisdom? First, cherish what you have. Acknowledge the good things and people in your life, because they might not always be there. Second, when you do face loss, allow yourself to grieve. It's okay to feel that pain—it means you had something valuable. But don't let it paralyze you. Use it as a reminder to appreciate and nurture the relationships and blessings you currently have.

Let me share a more relatable story. Imagine you're in high school and you find your "soulmate"—that one person who just gets you. You do everything together, from studying to late-night talks about the universe. But graduation comes, and you head off to separate colleges. At first, you try to keep in touch, but life gets in the way. Slowly, the texts become less frequent, the calls drop off, and one day, you realize you haven't spoken in months. The pain of losing that connection is sharp. You had something special, and now it's gone.

But think about it: would you trade all those wonderful memories just to avoid the pain you're feeling now? Probably not. Those experiences shaped you, brought joy, and taught you valuable lessons about connection and loss. They made the pain worth it.

In the end, the hurt of losing something valuable underscores its importance. It’s a testament to its impact on your life. So, when you find yourself mourning a loss, remember—it's a sign that you had something truly meaningful. And that's a beautiful thing, even if it hurts like hell.