"没有人可以在未经你允许的情况下持续地侮辱你或伤害你的感情。"

The idea here is pretty simple: you have the power to control how other people's words and actions affect you. If someone is constantly putting you down or trying to hurt your feelings, their success depends on whether you let their words get to you. This doesn't mean that words can't hurt—they can, and often do. But the point is that you have more control over your emotional responses than you might think.

Think about Eleanor Roosevelt, who’s often credited with a similar idea. She lived during a time when women didn't have as many rights or as much freedom as they do now. Despite the challenges, she became a powerful advocate for human rights. Her quote, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent," speaks volumes about personal empowerment. It suggests that while you can't always control what people say, you can control how you react.

Let’s take a real-life example to illustrate this. Imagine a high school student named Alex. Alex is passionate about art, but he’s constantly teased by his classmates who call him names and say his drawings are terrible. Now, Alex has two choices. He can let these hurtful comments eat away at his self-esteem, eventually leading him to give up on art altogether. Or, he can recognize that these bullies don’t have a say in his worth or talent. Instead, he could focus on the supportive words from his art teacher and the encouragement from his family.

So how do you apply this wisdom in your own life? First, be mindful of your emotional triggers. When you feel hurt, pause and ask yourself why. Are you giving too much power to someone else’s opinion? Next, work on building a strong sense of self-worth. Engage in activities that make you feel good about yourself, and surround yourself with supportive people. Finally, practice letting go. If someone says something hurtful, try to shrug it off. It's easier said than done, but with practice, it becomes more manageable.

Picture this: You’re at a family gathering, and your uncle—a guy known for his snide remarks—makes a comment about your career choice. "Oh, you’re still doing that? When are you going to get a real job?" In the past, this would’ve ruined your evening. But not today. You smile politely and say, "I love what I do, and that’s what matters." You continue enjoying your meal, engage in a lively conversation with another relative, and the comment rolls off you like water off a duck's back.

The concept is all about reclaiming your power. People will always have opinions, but you don’t have to internalize them. By doing this, you’re not just protecting your self-esteem, you’re also fostering a sense of inner peace. The more you practice this, the more resilient you’ll become against negativity. Remember, you’re the gatekeeper of your feelings—don’t hand over the keys to anyone else.

So next time someone tries to bring you down, stop and think: Are you going to build walls around their hurtful words, or are you going to let them pass through like a breeze? The choice is yours.