"قدرت داشتن شبیه به خانم بودن است. اگر لازم باشد به مردم بگویید که هستید، نیستید."

This quote gets to the heart of what real power, or true elegance, means. If you constantly have to announce to the world that you're powerful or elegant, it probably means you're not. Authentic power and grace speak for themselves through your actions, behavior, and presence.

Historically, this kind of wisdom has been evident in the lives of many influential figures. Think of someone like Queen Elizabeth I. She didn't need to boast about her power – her decisions and the way she conducted herself made it obvious. People followed her not because she demanded it, but because she commanded respect through her actions and leadership.

Let’s put this into a real-life scenario. Think about a workplace setting. Imagine there's a manager who is always reminding everyone that they’re in charge. "I’m the boss," they frequently say, "so you have to listen to me." This constant need to assert authority might make you question their competence. On the other hand, consider a manager who never has to state their title. They lead by example, treat everyone with respect, and make decisions that benefit the team. People naturally respect and follow them because their actions reflect their leadership.

So, how can you apply this advice in your own life? Start by focusing on your actions rather than your words. If you want to be seen as a leader or someone with authority, show it through the quality of your work, the consistency of your character, and the way you treat others. Respect is earned, not demanded. If you’re aiming to embody elegance, let your composure, confidence, and kindness shine through.

Here’s a relatable story to bring it home. Picture a high school classroom. There are two students who want to be class president. One of them – let’s call her Sarah – constantly tells everyone she’s the best choice. She talks about all the great ideas she has and why people should vote for her. The other student, Alex, doesn’t talk about his plans much. Instead, he’s the one who helps classmates with their work, listens to their concerns, and acts as a mediator when there’s conflict. When election day comes, Alex wins by a landslide. Why? Because he didn’t just tell people he would be a good leader – he showed them.

This principle applies to many areas of life. Whether it’s in relationships, work, or personal development, the key is to be genuine. If you’re really something, people will see it without you having to broadcast it. So next time you feel the urge to tell everyone about your qualities, take a step back. Ask yourself if your actions are aligning with the image you want to project. If they are, that’s enough. People will notice, and they’ll respect you more for it.

So, remember, it’s not about shouting your qualities from the rooftops. It’s about embodying them in every little thing you do. That’s the real power – and true elegance.