"不要复仇。如果可以的话，尽量避开你的敌人。不要寻求战胜他们。如果命运让你遇到他们，那就好。如果没有，就让他们自作自受。"

The essence of this quote is pretty straightforward: don’t waste your energy seeking revenge. Instead, steer clear of your adversaries when you can, and let life take care of the rest. If you end up crossing paths with them, so be it. If not, just let them deal with their own problems.

This wisdom has been around in various forms for centuries. You see it in ancient proverbs and modern self-help books. It's essentially about maintaining your peace and not letting negativity consume you. Think about it—when you hold onto a grudge or plot revenge, who's really suffering? Spoiler alert: it's you.

Let me paint you a picture with a real-life example. Imagine two colleagues, Sarah and Mike. Sarah feels slighted because Mike took credit for a project she worked hard on. She’s fuming and spends days plotting how to get even. Meanwhile, Mike is oblivious, going about his work as usual. Sarah’s productivity tanks, and her mood sours. Then, one day, Mike's boss finds out he’s been taking credit for others’ work and he gets demoted. Sarah didn’t have to lift a finger. Karma, fate, the universe—whatever you call it—handled it.

If you’re wondering how to apply this in your own life, it’s simpler than you might think. Next time someone wrongs you, take a deep breath. Resist the urge to retaliate. This doesn’t mean you should be a doormat—stand up for yourself, but don’t go out of your way to harm them back. Instead, focus on your own growth and happiness. Trust that people who do wrong will eventually face the consequences of their actions.

Picture this: You’re at a coffee shop, catching up with a friend. She tells you about a coworker who’s been spreading nasty rumors about her. She’s seething and talks about ways to expose the coworker. You listen, sip your latte, and then share this bit of wisdom with her. You tell her to stay focused on her work and let her results speak for themselves. "Don’t avenge yourself," you say, "just avoid the toxic behavior and keep your distance." Imagine the relief on her face as she realizes she doesn’t have to carry that burden of revenge.

Life’s too short to be dragged down by negativity. When you let go of the need for revenge, you free up space for more positive things. You start to see that your energy is better spent on things that bring you joy and fulfillment.

So, next time you find yourself wronged, remember: you don't have to tie the noose. Often, people's actions will come back to them. In the meantime, focus on living your best life.