"Solo alguien que esté preparado para todo, que no excluya ninguna experiencia, incluso la más incomprensible, vivirá la relación con otra persona como algo vivo."

Being open to every experience, even the ones that don't make sense at first, is key to having a vibrant relationship. It's about embracing unpredictability and seeing all sides of another person without shutting down or turning away, even when things get tough.

This idea resonates deeply in our current world where relationships can often be superficial. Think about social media—everyone curates their best moments. We’ve been conditioned to exclude the messy parts of our lives. This quote pushes back against that, suggesting that true intimacy, real connection, comes from accepting all experiences, not just the polished bits.

Picture this: You’re in a new city, ready to start a fresh chapter. You meet someone at a local event. They’re intriguing—smart, funny, with an edge of mystery. At first, everything’s thrilling. But then, as you get to know them, you encounter parts of their life that are chaotic or confusing. Maybe they’re dealing with past trauma or they make decisions that you don't quite get. A lot of people would retreat at the first sign of complexity, but this quote suggests leaning in instead.

Let’s talk about a practical example. Jenna, a friend of mine, met her partner, Sam, at a time when both their lives were in flux. Jenna had just left a stable job to pursue art, while Sam was grappling with family issues that sometimes made him unpredictable. Early on, Jenna saw Sam’s erratic behavior as a red flag. But instead of pulling away, she chose to understand what was behind it. They had countless deep conversations that sometimes ended in tears, but often in a deeper understanding of each other. Sam started opening up about his struggles, and Jenna found ways to be supportive without losing herself in his problems. Over time, their relationship grew stronger, more alive, because they embraced all aspects of each other’s lives—chaos included.

So how do you apply this? Next time you’re faced with something in your relationship that feels uncomfortable or baffling, don't run. Pause, take a deep breath, and try to understand where your partner’s coming from. Ask questions, but more importantly, listen. It’s not about solving their problems—it's about being there with them. This builds trust, and trust is the bedrock of any meaningful relationship.

Imagine you’re sitting with your partner at a coffee shop, and they start talking about something that doesn't make much sense to you. Maybe it’s a dream they have that feels unrealistic or a fear that seems unfounded. Instead of dismissing it, lean in. Ask why it’s important to them. Share your own dreams and fears too. This kind of open, non-judgmental communication can turn a simple coffee date into a moment of real connection.

In essence, don't shy away from the messy parts of relationships. Dive into them with curiosity and openness. That’s where you’ll find the most profound connections.