"他の人の変化に注意を向けていると、自分を変えることはできません。"

To truly change who you are, you've got to focus on your own journey, not someone else's. It's like trying to read a book while watching TV—your attention is divided, and you won't get much out of either. This idea really hits home: if you're constantly comparing yourself to others, you'll miss the chance to grow yourself.

Think back to middle school. You probably remember times where everyone was trying to fit in, watching what others wore, how they talked, what hobbies they had. Maybe there was a point where you tried to copy someone you admired. Did it work for you? Probably not, because their path isn't yours.

Take Sarah as an example. She always wanted to be a writer but spent years admiring and comparing herself to a friend who was a successful engineer. Every time her friend hit a milestone, Sarah felt she was falling behind even though engineering wasn't her passion. When Sarah finally turned her focus inward, she realized she had neglected her true love—writing. Once she committed to her own growth, she began to write every day, took a few courses, and eventually published her first book. Her transformation only began when she let go of her friend’s achievements and focused on her own path.

So, how can you apply this wisdom to your life? Start by shifting your focus. When you catch yourself comparing your progress to someone else’s, remind yourself: their journey is not yours. Set aside time each day to work on your goals. Are you trying to get fit? Spend that time at the gym or planning healthy meals, not scrolling through someone else's fitness blog. Want to learn a new skill? Dedicate time to practice, rather than watching others master it on YouTube. Celebrate your small victories—ran an extra mile, learned a new recipe, nailed a tricky guitar chord—these moments are yours.

Imagine a garden. If you spend all your time admiring your neighbor’s flowers, your own garden will wither. But if you tend to your own soil, water your plants, and pull out your weeds, your garden will bloom in its own unique way. You can't grow what you don't nurture.

Here's a little story: Think about Jake. Jake loved photography but was constantly distracted by his friend Max, who was a fantastic painter. He'd spend hours looking at Max’s artwork, feeling inadequate about his own progress. One day, Jake decided to put the same energy into his photography. He took a class, started a small project capturing local street scenes, and, over time, his work improved. His confidence grew and he even held a small exhibition. The turning point was simple—he stopped focusing on Max’s painting and started investing in his own passion.

In the end, your growth is all about you. Keep your eyes on your own path, celebrate your milestones, and remember—transformation happens within. Your story is unique, and so is your journey. Don't let someone else's story overshadow yours.