"There are so many things we can't do anything about, that to carry around in your head all the time, with the intensity of some people, is just debilitating"

Some things in life are totally out of our control. If you constantly worry about these things, it can be exhausting and drain your energy. Imagine carrying a heavy backpack filled with rocks everywhere you go. That's what it's like mentally when you obsess over things you can't change.

This idea isn't new. It's been around for centuries in various forms, echoed by philosophers and thinkers. Take the Stoics, for example. They believed you should only focus on what you can control and let go of the rest. It’s a timeless piece of wisdom that's just as relevant today as it was back then.

Now, picture this: A friend of mine, let's call her Sarah, was always stressed about her job. She'd worry about everything—whether her boss liked her, if her colleagues respected her, or if the company was doing well financially. This stress kept her up at night and made her miserable. One day, she started focusing only on what she could control: the quality of her work, her attitude, and how she managed her time. Gradually, she felt a lot lighter and happier. The burdens she couldn't do anything about? She let them go.

So, how can you apply this in your life? Start by recognizing what's beyond your control. Write it down if it helps. Then, make a conscious decision to let go of those things. Focus on what you can change: your actions, your responses, and your mindset. Think about the serenity prayer: "Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference." There’s a lot of truth packed in those lines.

Imagine you're at a coffee shop with a friend, chatting about life. Your friend is venting about the weather ruining their plans for the weekend. You listen, nod, and then gently remind them that they can't control the weather. All they can control is how they respond—maybe reschedule, maybe find a cozy indoor activity. This light-hearted conversation sums up