"みんな親や生活に縛られているように感じる"

Life can often feel like a set of invisible handcuffs. We're born into certain expectations, both from our parents and society, and these expectations can make us feel trapped or limited. It's like we're all playing roles in a script we didn't write, and sometimes, it feels like there's no room for improvisation.

To get a clearer perspective, let's go back to the 1950s. This was an era where societal and parental expectations were rigid. You were expected to follow a pre-determined path: go to school, get a job, marry, and have kids. Deviating from this path was hardly an option and could lead to social isolation. Fast forward to now, and while the world has changed considerably, there's still a lot of that old-school thinking hanging around. Parents, with the best of intentions, often shape our lives based on their experiences and fears.

Take, for example, the life of a young woman named Lucy. Lucy always loved painting. She painted every chance she got, and she even sold a few pieces online. Her dream was to become an artist. But her parents had other plans. They believed that art was not a dependable career. They wanted her to study law, a field they considered stable and prestigious. So, Lucy went to law school. She passed the bar and got a job at a reputable law firm, but she was miserable. Every day felt like a struggle because her passion for painting was stifled. It wasn't until she took a leap of faith and started painting again in her spare time that she felt alive. Eventually, she left her law career to pursue art full-time, finding fulfillment and success.

So, how can we apply this wisdom in our own lives? First, it's essential to recognize the constraints around you. Are you living your life according to someone else's expectations? It's okay to listen to advice and consider the wisdom of those older than you, but at the end of the day, it's your life. You need to prioritize your happiness and fulfillment. Start by identifying what truly matters to you. What makes you excited to get out of bed in the morning? Once you find that, pursue it with determination.

Imagine you're at a family dinner, and every relative has an opinion about what you should do with your life. Your aunt thinks you should become a nurse because it's a noble profession. Your uncle insists you should get into real estate because that's where the money is. It's easy to feel overwhelmed in these situations. But remember, those opinions are just that — opinions. They don't define your path. Politely listen, nod, and then go home and reflect on what *you* want. Maybe even write it down. Sometimes, seeing your thoughts on paper can bring clarity.

In that crowded room, think about this: five years from now, whose life do you want to look back on? A life lived for others or a life lived for yourself? It's your decision. And while the journey might be challenging, breaking free from those constraints can lead to a freedom that's indescribably rewarding.

So next time you feel the weight of others’ expectations pressing down on you, remember Lucy. You don’t have to abandon all advice, but filter it through the lens of your own dreams and aspirations. It's your story to tell. Make it an interesting one.