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"People are always far more interested in themselves than in anyone else. Your book will most probably interest them if it helps them see themselves in a new light"

Yuval Noah Harari
Yuval Noah Harari Historian and Author
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People are naturally more fascinated by their own lives and experiences than those of others. This makes perfect sense when you think about it. Our lives are like our own personal movies—we're the main characters, and everything revolves around us. So, if you want to capture someone's attention, you need to find a way to make them see themselves in what you're presenting.

The idea that people are more drawn to things that reflect their own experiences or give them a new perspective on their lives is not new. It's something that's been understood for ages, and it's why stories, books, and art that resonate on a personal level tend to be so impactful. When someone reads a book and sees themselves in the characters, or feels that the story speaks to their own struggles and dreams, they're far more likely to be captivated.

Take, for example, the book "To Kill a Mockingbird" by Harper Lee. It’s a classic because it doesn’t just tell a story—it invites readers to see themselves in the characters. Whether it's Scout's innocence, Atticus's wisdom, or Tom Robinson's plight, readers find bits of themselves and their own experiences reflected back at them. This is what makes the book so powerful and enduring.

So, how can you apply this understanding? If you're writing a book, telling a story, or even just trying to make a point, think about your audience. Ask yourself, how can you make this relevant to them? What are their fears, hopes, and dreams? People want to feel understood and seen. They want to find parts of themselves in what they're reading or hearing.

Now, imagine you're at a party. You're trying to connect with someone you've just met. You could talk about something general—like the weather or your job—but chances are, their eyes will glaze over. But if you share a personal story that they can relate to, something that taps into a shared experience or emotion, you’ll notice a shift. They’ll lean in, their eyes will light up, and suddenly, you’re not just two strangers making small talk. You’re connecting on a deeper level.

Here’s a relatable scenario: Think about social media. Why do people love platforms like Instagram? It’s not just about seeing what others are doing—it’s about seeing themselves reflected in those posts. When you post a picture of your dog, and someone comments that it reminds them of their own pet, you've made a connection. That little moment of recognition is powerful because it’s personal.

In essence, if you want to engage people, show them a mirror. But don't just reflect who they are—give them a new way to see themselves. Make them feel understood, and offer them a fresh perspective on their own lives. This is how you capture interest and make a lasting impact.

So next time you're crafting a story, writing a book, or trying to connect with someone, remember this: People are deeply interested in themselves. Show them a part of their own story, and you'll have their attention. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll help them see their own lives in a whole new light.
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Human-nature Literature Personal-growth Psychology Self-awareness Self-interest Self-perception
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