"Si d'autres personnes ne comprennent pas notre comportement tant pis Leur demande que nous devons avoir du sens pour eux peut juste être une tentative de nous contrôler"

It’s frustrating when others don’t get why you do what you do, isn’t it? But here’s the thing—sometimes, you don’t need to make sense to them. That’s the core idea of the quote you brought up. When people insist that your actions should fit their understanding, it might actually be their way of trying to control you. They’re not always looking to understand; they might be aiming to mold your behavior to fit their expectations.

Imagine this: it’s the 1960s, and Bob Dylan decides to go electric at the Newport Folk Festival. The crowd loses it. They just don’t understand why he’s abandoning the acoustic roots they love. But Dylan didn’t care. He knew what he wanted to do with his music, and he refused to let the audience's confusion dictate his artistic direction. To him, their bewilderment wasn’t a reason to change—it was a sign he was doing something true to himself.

In a more everyday scenario, think about a teenager who decides to pursue a career in art rather than following the family tradition of becoming a lawyer. The family might not get it. They might ask, “Why art? You’re throwing away a stable future!” But here’s the thing—if the teen changes their path just to make sense to the family, they’re letting the family control their dreams. Their passion for art isn’t a puzzle for the family to solve; it’s their personal calling.

So, how can you apply this wisdom in your own life? First, recognize when someone’s confusion is more about control than genuine curiosity. When they say, “I don’t get why you’re doing this,” ask yourself if their understanding is necessary for your fulfillment. If it’s not, give yourself permission to keep going. You don’t owe them an explanation that fits their worldview.

Second, trust your instincts and stay true to your goals. We often bend our actions to fit others’ expectations because we want to avoid conflict or judgment. But think about Dylan—he knew his music was evolving, and he didn’t let the crowd’s lack of understanding derail his journey. You should give yourself that same freedom.

Picture this: your best friend decides to quit a high-paying job to travel the world and write a book. You might scratch your head and think, “What? That doesn’t make any sense!” But for your friend, it’s the most fulfilling choice they can make. If they spent all their time explaining and justifying their decision, they’d be stuck in their office, miserable and unfulfilled. Sometimes, the best support you can offer is to accept their decision without needing to fully understand it.

In the end, it’s all about embracing the fact that your path is yours alone. And if others don’t get it—well, so what? Their demands for understanding are often just disguised attempts to steer you back to what’s familiar and comfortable for them. So next time you face bafflement from others, channel a bit of Dylan. Keep strumming your electric guitar, even if they’re booing from the sidelines.