"No disputes con tus superiores en argumentos, sino que siempre somete tu juicio a los demás con modestia."

Sometimes, it’s just better to keep your thoughts to yourself, especially when you’re dealing with someone in a higher position or someone with more experience. This doesn’t mean you give up your opinions entirely or that you must accept everything someone else says blindly. It’s about knowing when to pick your battles and understanding the value of modesty and respect in conversations.

Historically, this idea has been around for ages. Think about ancient philosophers or even old-school business tycoons. They knew that engaging in a heated argument with a superior could be more damaging than beneficial. It’s not just about losing face—or worse, your job—but also about maintaining a harmonious relationship. In many cultures, respect for elders and those in authority is paramount, reflecting a broader societal norm of maintaining order and respect.

Imagine this: you're sitting in a boardroom, and your boss is enthusiastically presenting a new project plan. You see a few flaws in the plan, flaws that you’re sure will cause problems down the line. Now, you have two choices. You could interrupt and point out these flaws in front of everyone, which might make you look like a know-it-all but also embarrass your boss and potentially create tension. Or, you could wait until after the meeting, approach your boss privately, and share your concerns in a respectful way. This second approach shows humility and respect, and your boss is much more likely to appreciate your input without feeling undermined.

So how can you apply this wisdom in your life? Start by listening more and talking less when you’re in the presence of those with more experience or authority. It’s not about silencing yourself; it’s about choosing the right moment to voice your opinions. When you do speak up, do so with respect and humility. A simple "I see your point, and I was wondering if we could also consider..." can go a long way.

Let’s bring this to life with a story. Picture this: Emma is a young marketing executive who’s just started her job at a big firm. Her manager, Sarah, has been in the industry for decades and knows the ins and outs of every campaign they run. One day, during a team meeting, Sarah proposes a strategy that Emma thinks is outdated. Emma's first instinct is to jump in and offer her fresh perspective. But she remembers the importance of modesty and respect. Instead of challenging Sarah directly, Emma waits until after the meeting. She then asks Sarah if they could chat for a few minutes. In a private conversation, Emma shares her ideas and suggests they might be worth considering. Sarah appreciates Emma’s tact and willingness to share her ideas without creating public friction. In the end, they combine their insights, and the campaign is a huge success.

This approach helps in building trust and respect. It’s not about suppressing your ideas or being submissive; it’s about being smart in how you communicate. By being modest and respectful, you create an environment where your ideas are more likely to be heard and valued.

So, next time you feel the urge to argue with someone in a higher position, take a step back. Think about the best way to present your ideas without stepping on toes. You’ll find that respect and modesty can take you further than confrontation ever could.