"من السهل جداً أن تسامح الآخرين أخطائهم يتطلب الأمر شجاعة أكبر لتسامحهم على شهدتهم لأخطائك."

Forgiving others for their mistakes can be straightforward enough. We all mess up, and we generally understand that everyone deserves a second chance. But think about this for a second—how hard is it to forgive someone who has seen you at your absolute worst? Someone who’s witnessed your blunders, your slip-ups, those moments you wish you could just erase. That kind of forgiveness takes real guts.

Imagine you’re at work, and you make a huge error on a project. Not only do you mess up, but your co-worker, who you’re usually pretty friendly with, is right there to see it. You can feel the embarrassment burning on your face. Now, you have to face them every day knowing they saw you fail. Even if they’ve forgiven you, you might find yourself feeling awkward around them, maybe even a bit resentful. It’s those feelings that are tough to shake.

To put this into a real-life example, think about a sports team. Remember when Tom Brady threw that interception during a critical game? Everyone saw it. He had to forgive himself for making the mistake, but also deal with his teammates—who witnessed it. That’s where the grit comes in. It’s not about the mistake itself but coming to terms with the fact that others have seen you fail.

Here's some advice: start by accepting that everyone makes mistakes and that vulnerability is part of being human. Don’t shy away from it. In fact, own it. When someone sees you mess up, it’s an opportunity to show resilience. Apologize if needed, and then move forward. The quicker you can forgive yourself and acknowledge the situation, the easier it will be to move past it.

Let’s paint a picture. Imagine you’re back in school, giving a presentation. Halfway through, you realize you’ve used the wrong data. Your heart sinks. Your classmates are staring, some whispering. After class, a friend comes up and says, “Hey, don’t worry about it. We’ve all been there.” Initially, you might feel irritated—they saw your failure. But there’s also a chance for growth. You can either dwell on the embarrassment or take their words to heart and use it to strengthen your resolve for next time.

Think about it: if you can face someone who’s seen your most human moments and still walk with your head held high, you’re invincible. It’s not about pretending the mistake didn’t happen but showing that it doesn’t define you. It’s about being okay with being seen as imperfect.

In essence, forgiving others for seeing our flaws is a powerful act of self-compassion. It’s recognizing that we’re all imperfect and that’s okay. So next time you find yourself in a similar situation, embrace it. Learn from it. And remember, everyone else is too busy worrying about their own slip-ups to dwell on yours for too long.