"Si amas a alguien pero rara vez te haces disponible"

Loving someone means making them a priority and showing up for them regularly. If you say you care about someone but hardly spend time with them or aren’t there when they need you, your actions don’t match your words. Love isn’t just about how you feel; it’s about what you do.

Think about a time when you needed a friend, maybe during a rough patch at work or school. If that friend, who always says they’re there for you, never actually shows up or makes time to listen, you’d start to question their sincerity, right? Actions speak louder than words, and consistent availability is essential in any meaningful relationship.

Let's talk history for a moment. This idea has been around forever. Remember the days when people wrote letters? Even then, they understood that staying in touch mattered. A letter from a loved one could be the highlight of someone’s week. Fast forward to now—texts, calls, video chats. We’ve got all these ways to connect, yet somehow, the challenge of being truly present remains.

Take the example of a couple I know, Emily and Jake. They’re both super busy—Emily’s a nurse, and Jake’s a software developer. They adore each other but noticed they were drifting apart. Why? They rarely made time for each other. Weekends would roll around, and one would be catching up on sleep while the other was still buried in work. They realized love needed more than just feeling; it needed action. So, they set a rule: Sunday brunch was their time, no matter what. This small commitment made a huge difference. They reconnected, laughed more, and felt closer—all because they made themselves available.

If you’re wondering how to apply this, start small. Think about someone you care about and make a plan. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture. Send a “thinking of you” text, plan a quick coffee date, or call them up just to chat. Consistency is key. It’s about showing up regularly, not sporadically.

Imagine you’ve got a best friend who’s always there when you call. Now, picture the opposite—a friend who only shows up when it’s convenient for them. Which friend would you trust more? Which friendship would you invest in? Exactly.

Picture this: You’re in a bustling coffee shop, catching up with a friend you haven’t seen in a while. As you chat, you realize how much you’ve missed these moments. Life got busy—work, family, the usual. But now that you’re here, it feels like no time has passed. This is the essence of making yourself available. It’s not about grand, time-consuming gestures; it’s about those moments of connection that remind us why we care.

So, next time you think about someone you love, ask yourself: When was the last time I made myself available? If it’s been a while, don’t beat yourself up. Just reach out. Love is in the little things, the everyday moments, and most importantly, in being there. That’s the heart of it.